I appreciate the fact that a few persons came to me personally to redress my take on the Pastor Abiodun and Busola's rape issue, and I have taken redress where ever necessary.
You see this rape thing, a lot of us women have been victims at one point or another maybe not actually raped but attempted rape.
But we also have this fear of speaking out because we feel ashamed by it and we end up harbouring the hurts in our hearts and hatred for whoever attempted such with us.
On a personal note, I have had way over 3 attempt of rape so I could understand atleast a percent of what it feels like to be dragged down by someone who least deserve you and who also want to take advantage of you.
First by a distance relative of an inlaw who was expectedly supposed to be a brother, than by a friend and a former colleague..
So you see, most girls no longer feel safe..
However, I still feel there are a few things a lady can do if accosted by this.
First your can scream.
Yes, this I did. Told the bastard I was going to scream if he doesn't stop and he took it for granted thinking i was those kind of girls who get frightened by anything.
He pushed me to the wall when I did scream and gave way so I could walk. Of course, after trying to cover my mouth countless times. He was also afraid of not getting caught after all.
Shame on him.
Second, you can attempt to fight back with a weapon you can access..
I can remember vividly I had to stab my supposed in law's relative with a key I was with...
I locked my sister's shop that afternoon and he cajoled me into a dark room. There was no one at home, it was just me and him.. stopped him repeatedly with it and he had to let go of me.
See, rape is not a welcomed rumor as many of you may perceived but until you are a victim, you can never know how deep this can penetrate..I might have forgiven these people but the question is would I have forgiven them, if they had their way in?
I rest my case and I do hope that we all stay safe.
My name is Nelly
#IsayNoToRape.
You see this rape thing, a lot of us women have been victims at one point or another maybe not actually raped but attempted rape.
But we also have this fear of speaking out because we feel ashamed by it and we end up harbouring the hurts in our hearts and hatred for whoever attempted such with us.
On a personal note, I have had way over 3 attempt of rape so I could understand atleast a percent of what it feels like to be dragged down by someone who least deserve you and who also want to take advantage of you.
First by a distance relative of an inlaw who was expectedly supposed to be a brother, than by a friend and a former colleague..
So you see, most girls no longer feel safe..
However, I still feel there are a few things a lady can do if accosted by this.
First your can scream.
Yes, this I did. Told the bastard I was going to scream if he doesn't stop and he took it for granted thinking i was those kind of girls who get frightened by anything.
He pushed me to the wall when I did scream and gave way so I could walk. Of course, after trying to cover my mouth countless times. He was also afraid of not getting caught after all.
Shame on him.
Second, you can attempt to fight back with a weapon you can access..
I can remember vividly I had to stab my supposed in law's relative with a key I was with...
I locked my sister's shop that afternoon and he cajoled me into a dark room. There was no one at home, it was just me and him.. stopped him repeatedly with it and he had to let go of me.
See, rape is not a welcomed rumor as many of you may perceived but until you are a victim, you can never know how deep this can penetrate..I might have forgiven these people but the question is would I have forgiven them, if they had their way in?
I rest my case and I do hope that we all stay safe.
My name is Nelly
#IsayNoToRape.
But did you open up that time?
ReplyDeleteNo. I never saw the need to..
ReplyDeleteMy case might be different, I found my way out
Thank God you found your way out
ReplyDeleteRape is evil, rape has destroyed a lot of girls. With more persons speaking up lately, young girls who ever become victims won't hide their truth anymore, having to fight their demons alone. They will have the guts to speak up.
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